This year has been a whirlwind of a year for me. Probably the most intense so far. Strengthened friendships, lost friendships, and gaining of old and new friends this year has been one of the most emotional learning curves I’ve had. Secondly, Came under one … Continue reading The End of an ERA…. HERES TO 2014!!
Category: Life, Love, Laughter, Music, Creativity and Art…pearls of wisdom
How to Defeat the Dangers of Disrespect
we all need to know this…
Foolish leaders disrespect intentionally. But, for many, disrespect is accidental.
Disrespectful leaders demoralize the team.
You’re disrespectful when you:
- Answer for others in meetings.
- Help when help isn’t needed. Over-helpfulness suggests others aren’t capable.
- Make choices without input from those impacted. Unilateral decisiveness feels like a putdown to those on the receiving end of your decisions.
- Minimize successes and maximize failures, in the name of improvement.
- Neglect common courtesies like good morning. The first thing to go when you feel time pressure is good manners. Disrespectful leaders talk at, speak down, and interrupt.
- Assume negative intention.
People who feel disrespected:
- Disconnect and withdrawal. Disrespect is so painful that pulling back is inevitable.
- Distrust. They don’t trust you when you disrespect them.
- Lose respect for you. Disrespect invites disrespect.
- Slowdown in protest.
- Sabotage the process or results.
- Never give you their best.
- Leave the team either literally or emotionally.
Thanks to…
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40 days of Thanksgiving
Hey guys,
For the past 27 days I’ve been declaring things I am thankful for and
looking for something everyday to be grateful for. And I decided that for all those who don’t quite get all this thanksgiving I’m giving, here’s a quick brief overview.
Usually everyday, we all have something to complain about. There’s always something going wrong and if its not our life, its the weather or its the government or etc. And I realised that with some of the challenges that I’m currently facing that if I kept this ever growing cycle of complaining or moaning and grumbling (even though I have the right to) that I would become more miserable and the energy I release will be half the output I receive and it will kill the strength for me to pull through.
So I’ve known that the key usually to breakthrough is by thanksgiving, and seeing that this is the season of Thanksgiving (for mainly The United States of America) I felt it right that I should start a 14day challenge of saying thank you. But, as I continued with this challenge, I grew so use to it and it’s slowly but surely been changing my attitude towards each day! Although, it was hard at first! As a result of this realisation, I decided to increase it to 40-days and noticed that one of my favourite musicians and worship leaders from IHOP aka Jaye Thomas was doing the same thing and it provoked me to join in the battle for a WAR ON GRUMBLING.
You see the goal is to cultivate a culture of “Thanksgiving” which we’ve apparently seemed to have lost in this ‘god-forsaken’ world we live in currently. If we cultivate such a culture, imagine what it would be like…! Imagine the shift and transformation. The was I see it is as I commented on my friend’s comment on Facebook saying, ” jump on the band wagon. the more we get cultivating a culture of thanksgiving, the better [wecreate] the atmosphere [we live in], and the likely hood for us seeing greater miracles and experiencing personal transformation!”
So Why not join in on this war on grumbling? At least if it doesn’t change anything else, it will certainly change your attitude and your outlook on life Pain or Not! Thanks for taking the time to read! Peace! xx #warongrumbling
Keeping it Real,
The Elected Lady xx
Sexism ain’t sexy
I will let the writer speak for herself. Enough said. Claire’s basically put to words more constructively what I’ve been saying and thinking (probably over emotionally as in me) for a loooooooooong time (those who’ve seen the show Miss Jocelyn will get the joke of looooong time lol). Please read this insightful post and don’t forget to check the Sterling University article or clip that sparked this intense female ANGER.
Thank you, good night, and Keeping it Real. Peace.
The Elected Lady xx
I am so horrified that we are still dealing with sexism in this day and age…
(As a disclaimer I feel I should probably say that I don’t make ranting my day job but, if I did, I’d probably have a lot to say ;). In all seriousness, it’s an issue that has always got my blood boiling and why should my opinion not be expressed? Men, please don’t be offended. I am not demonizing you, nor do I feel that every man responds in exactly the same manner. But, discursively speaking, I have a feeling you will all relate to a lot of what I’m about to say…)
We’ve advanced enough as human beings to be able to find ways to perform organ transplants, build prosthetic limbs and even catapult out of the bloody STRATOSPHERE in a tin can and yet still there are people in this world who…
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Marriage Isn’t For You
oh how powerful is this!! This is so true on every level! Seth speaks with such wisdom. Take note! peace. Keeping it Real,
The Elected Lady xx
Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.
Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.
I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. 🙂 I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.
Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?
Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.
Perhaps each…
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20/20
funny and brilliant read from my friend. good piece of honest humour for the morning!! xx
20 things I have learnt about myself, my twenties and life in my twenties
My music taste may fluctuate from time to time, but there are certain bands that I will always run back to, with open arms, declaring my love to them forever and ever.
Life is too short to not have a sense of bloody humour. And if you don’t understand someone’s sense of humour, just laugh anyway.
I should read more autobiographies.
Don’t hate the things/people you don’t understand. Research and educate yourself.
Hugging the floor in times of tiredness or crisis (or both) is definitely okay.
Not making my own dentist appointments because I’m too afraid of speaking to someone I don’t know on the other end of the phone is not okay.
The grass is absolutely NOT greener on the other side.
Train stations are the best.
Train rides back home to Manchester are better…
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Children’s hospital patients lip-sync Katy Perry’s Roar in heart-warming video
inspirational!!! xx
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