Foolish leaders disrespect intentionally. But, for many, disrespect is accidental.
Disrespectful leaders demoralize the team.
You’re disrespectful when you:
Answer for others in meetings.
Help when help isn’t needed. Over-helpfulness suggests others aren’t capable.
Make choices without input from those impacted. Unilateral decisiveness feels like a putdown to those on the receiving end of your decisions.
Minimize successes and maximize failures, in the name of improvement.
Neglect common courtesies like good morning. The first thing to go when you feel time pressure is good manners. Disrespectful leaders talk at, speak down, and interrupt.
Assume negative intention.
People who feel disrespected:
Disconnect and withdrawal. Disrespect is so painful that pulling back is inevitable.
Distrust. They don’t trust you when you disrespect them.
Lose respect for you. Disrespect invites disrespect.
For the past 27 daysI’ve been declaring things I am thankful for and
Charlie & Snoopy in Thanksgiving mode!
looking for something everyday to be grateful for. And I decided that for all those who don’t quite get all this thanksgiving I’m giving, here’s a quick brief overview.
Usually everyday, we all have something to complain about. There’s always something going wrong and if its not our life, its the weather or its the government or etc. And I realised that with some of the challenges that I’m currently facing that if I kept this ever growing cycle of complaining or moaning and grumbling (even though I have the right to) that I would become more miserable and the energy I release will be half the output I receive and it will kill the strength for me to pull through.
So I’ve known that the key usually to breakthrough is by thanksgiving, and seeing that this is the season of Thanksgiving (for mainly The United States of America) I felt it right that I should start a 14day challenge of saying thank you. But, as I continued with this challenge, I grew so use to it and it’s slowly but surely been changing my attitude towards each day! Although, it was hard at first! As a result of this realisation, I decided to increase it to 40-days and noticed that one of my favourite musicians and worship leaders from IHOP aka Jaye Thomas was doing the same thing and it provoked me to join in the battle for a WAR ON GRUMBLING.
You see the goal is to cultivate a culture of “Thanksgiving” which we’ve apparently seemed to have lost in this ‘god-forsaken’ world we live in currently. If we cultivate such a culture, imagine what it would be like…! Imagine the shift and transformation. The was I see it is as I commented on my friend’s comment on Facebook saying, ” jump on the band wagon. the more we get cultivating a culture of thanksgiving, the better [wecreate] the atmosphere [we live in], and the likely hood for us seeing greater miracles and experiencing personal transformation!”
So Why not join in on this war on grumbling? At least if it doesn’t change anything else, it will certainly change your attitude and your outlook on life Pain or Not! Thanks for taking the time to read! Peace! xx#warongrumbling
Keeping it Real,
The Elected Lady xx
A good ol’ Thanksgiving Meal! What are you thankful for? #Thanksgiving2013
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